How To Maintain Perspective In The Face Of Fear

How To Maintain Perspective In The Face Of Fear

Perspective is an interesting thing. I’ve had a whole bunch of conversations lately all following the same theme…..entrepreneurs stuck in what I call the “detail”, agonizing over what I consider to the be microscopic details of a much larger (and long forgotten) vision. If you think success or failure hinges on the next day to day decision this is a sign you’re dwelling in detail, the type of low-level thinking that’s gonna keep you small. Ya’ll know I love a good sports analogy so I’m going to use running a Marathon as an analogy. When you set the date to run a marathon shit get’s real, any lurking injury lying in wait erupts, bad weather, family celebrations and holidays getting in the way of training, you name it, that stuff’s gonna show up. But if you’ve signed up to run the damned marathon and are 100% committed to showing up on the day it’ll happen. Along the way you’ll have abandoned some long runs because your body or mind gave out, you’ll have skipped some training sessions, been sidelined for weeks through injury but race day comes and there you are. It might not be pretty but you’ll cross the finish line. Maybe your time will suck, you might have had to walk 78.5% of the course but you’ll cross the finish line because that’s the commitment you made to yourself. The result? You achieved what you set out to achieve even if the journey didn’t come close to resembling the ideal you had in your mind. Business is the same. You have your goals, BIG goals, but you’re...
Burn It To The Ground… All Of It!

Burn It To The Ground… All Of It!

The lessons keep on coming as I transition out of one brand and back into a more evolved of my old one that mixes the best of all of the stuff I’ve done until now and here’s the latest, most significant, most impactful lesson I’ve learned over the past month. This isn’t a new lesson but another of those wonderful past learned lessons that you need to learn again…because the time is right to do so. the lesson is quite simply this….. You CANNOT create the new by trying to hold onto the old….or by trying to merge the new with the old. Here’s an example. The launch of my Art Of Kicking Ass Elegantly brand, hands down, was my greatest success in business. On all levels. It was my most financially successful brand, I loved the work, I felt fabulous doing the work and I loved my community and I adored the brand itself. I also loved that I could play with that business and easily add programs and offerings into the mix because everything was so bloody aligned and downright fun. But I made a mistake and underestimated the willingness of some clients to do the actual work I was asking them to do and to do it FULLY. Because that’s what success takes. You can’t half ass all in….you have to use your WHOLE ass when you go ALL IN So there were some grumblings. Some toxicity. And from me…. Some sadness. Some frustration. And then some anger… a lot of anger. And resentment. And a huge sense of injustice…injustice is something I’ve always struggled with,...
Balance, Shmalance… Life Is Meant To Be Juicy!

Balance, Shmalance… Life Is Meant To Be Juicy!

If you’ve been listening to me recently you’ll know that my new mantra is EASE – ELEGANCE – EFFICIENCY which may seem somewhat at odds with wanting it all right? But it’s not and here’s why. To me, balance is all about a FEELING. Do I feel rushed? Overwhelmed? Behind on anything? If I can answer NOPE to each of these questions I know I’m halfway towards feeling the way I want to feel that day. I then want to know… Is my energy good? Am I taking care of myself? Am I making time for the people I love? Do I feel productive? Am I growing? AM I HAVING FUN?? If I can answer YEP to those bad boys I’m happy. Balance is NOT about creating a schedule that segments your life into bite sized and manageable pieces. It truly is a feeling and when you FEEL good…when your energy is on FIRE…when you’re energised from the inside out….is when you can achieve ALL-THE-THINGS. SO….if you’re feeling drained and overwhelmed know this…..YOU can change this in a heartbeat. It starts with my favourite questions – HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL RIGHT NOW? Get clear on that and then keep the main thing (right now) the main thing. AND honour all the parts of you that make your heart sing. For me that’s… Training in the gym or on the mat with purpose and taking good care of my body and health. It’s connecting with the people I love often. It’s girl dates with my besties with bonus points for group catch ups. It’s being the very best...
What’s The Feeling You’re Chasing?

What’s The Feeling You’re Chasing?

You guys have been around the block a few times so I know I don’t need to explain to you that the “thing” you want isn’t really about the thing right? You know that what you REALLY want is what the thing represents. We know that we don’t want to achieve financial wealth simply to have lot’s of paper (or plastic) stuff sitting in a bank somewhere. Or the perfect body so we can sit around looking at our abs all day Or the most successful business ever simply for the sake of success. For each of us the “feelings” we want to experience based on our achievements is different. We want to feel things like accomplishment, pride, joy, happiness and security just for starters. It’s the same deal when it comes to us personally. We want to excel at our work because we feel confident as an example. And we also avoid certain things because of feelings we DON’T want. We don’t want to miss deadlines because we don’t want to feel stressed or disappointed in ourselves. We want to stay on top of our work because we don’t want to feel overwhelmed. Etc etc etc Pretty much everything we do or don’t do in our lives is to either generate or avoid a feeling. You may have heard me mention this week that I’ve adopted a new mantra. EASE – ELEGANCE – EFFICIENCY. These 3 words, these 3 FEELINGS now guide my days. Ease is all about taking my time with things, no rushing or trying to take on too many tasks at once. Elegance is such...
Today Is The Perfect Day To Start Living Your Dream!

Today Is The Perfect Day To Start Living Your Dream!

Can I ask you a question? WHAT are you waiting for? What’s the loop you have playing in your head about why you CAN’T? Today’s an ordinary Thursday (or maybe a Wednesday depending on where you are in the world), it’s not the start of a New Year, a new month or even a new week. Is this your procrastination right now? Are you waiting for Monday? For the start of the new month? Have you written off this year because things turned to crap and you know next year will be YOUR YEAR? Here’s the thing…there is NEVER a right time to make your dreams come true. The trick is to MAKE THE TIME RIGHT. So today, on this very ordinary Thursday morning, without any fireworks or build up….HOW CAN YOU START LIVING YOUR DREAMS……TODAY?? Do you even know that that looks like? Are you clear? Do you have a PLAN? If not then that is the perfect place to begin. EVERY SINGLE THING I have created in my life began with putting pen to paper and gaining clarity. And creating a plan. Then hauling ass UNTIL reality caught up with my vision. Here’s a myth I want to dispel for you. You do NOT need to be special to live the life of your dreams. You don’t need to be LUCKY. Or blessed. You simply need to be crystal clear on what it is you want and be prepared to work at it UNTIL you get the result you want. You simply need to be prepared to work your way through the setbacks instead of letting them...
Get Out Of Your Head And Into Your GROOVE!

Get Out Of Your Head And Into Your GROOVE!

How I’m feeling today 🙂 From the moment I arrived home from my month away, I have been ON FIRE!! I honestly cannot remember when I’ve felt this GOOD! The last couple of days a cold has been trying to catch hold so I haven’t felt physically fabulous but I’ve had the biggest bounce in my step and a grin on my face a mile wide. I’ve even found myself saying “I’m so freaking HAPPY” to myself a few times a day 🙂 Nothing big has happened. No major changes have occurred. But there’s been a massive shift of “something” and I think it’s the fact that I’ve once again let the things that don’t serve me fall away. It’s been no secret that since January I’ve struggled with some sort of transition, no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t get my flow back. It’s been painful and frustrating. I’ve been chasing an elusive “clicking into place” that usually happens for me easily and quickly when I’m ready to pivot. Wouldn’t come. I was trying every trick in the book. Throwing everything at it. But nada, zip…ZERO. This trip took me out of my head. Working and traveling and speaking for the first 2 weeks with Katrina was awesome. Yes, we had some challenges but man we laughed SO much! And we were both fulfilling a dream, together, as a team and that was COOL! Usually I have support when I’m achieving my dreams and the success is mine alone (or the failures) but this time we got to share it and it truly was an incredible experience...
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