Just Put On Your Big Girl Pants And Do It!

Just Put On Your Big Girl Pants And Do It!

Soooo….today I did something very brave but heads up…if you’re not into spiritual stuff probably time to look away. This thing was SO important to me and the potential for disappointment held a lot of anxiety for me. BUT I practiced what I preach, put my big girl pants on and did it anyway. Today I had a Psychic reading in the hope of connecting with my grandmother. My nana died when I was 20 (nan was only in her mid 50’s) and we were close…very close….I loved her more than I ever loved anyone else ever…until I had kids of course. I’ve had regular readings but never with a medium and I’ve never tried to connect with my nan because….well….I just didn’t know if it would upset me too much. For WEEKS I’ve had this sense that I needed to connect with my nana, it was relentless. I booked an online session in for around 2 weeks but all weekend I’d felt this PUSH….that it was going to happen this weekend. I went for a walk on the beach. Went to the gym. Booked in a massage and had a spare hour but I actually tried to make it logistically difficult to happen because I spent 20 minutes in a book shop killing time. But I was pulled into a shop and the lady said she’d wait until after my massage. It was weird…I was walking back to my car to go for my massage and I was chatting away to myself (not out loud) and I got this strong sense that my nana was with me and...
I’m Here To Tell You That You’re Not Broken!

I’m Here To Tell You That You’re Not Broken!

Sooooo….looks like my flow is back  This ones a little different from my usual content but I know this will speak to many of you . YOU’RE NOT BROKEN. I owe A LOT to the self-help movement. Without it I’d be nowhere near as self-aware or enlightened as I am today. It helped move me from a place of trying to figure a lot of stuff out the hard way, crashing and bashing my way through life trying to make sense of the childhood I’d lived and the (shitty) choices I’d made as a result…..and into a place of enlightenment and empowerment. The moment I discovered Tony Robbins my world changed for the better and I set off on the path I’m still on today. But there’s something about the whole self-help movement that shits me to tears. It’s the premise that we’re all broken and that we’ve opened the book or attended the workshop or bought the program because we’re broken and need fixing. I think that feeds perpetual feelings of inadequacy. And the nagging feeling that we are never quite there yet…never quite “fixed”. Sure, there is ALWAYS work to be done, especially if you’ve been exposed to abuse ( sexual – domestic violence – mental / verbal) because we’re often triggered. Sunday night is a great example…I was watching 60 minutes and a woman was there with her son, she had fled a DV relationship that her son had witnessed and her son then became her abuser. He didn’t really think he was doing anything wrong and her response was a conditioned one….live in fear, keep...
Are You Looking For Support In All The Wrong Places?

Are You Looking For Support In All The Wrong Places?

Are you looking for support in all the wrong places? Today’s post has been prompted by a conversation within my Kickass Academy Group and unfortunately this conversation / issue a common one. One of my lovely ladies has recently launched her new brand and unfortunately this has been met with what can only be described as jealousy and pettiness from her friends…the people she had most hoped would support her and of course this has her feeling upset, annoyed and probably a whole bunch of other shitty emotions. Unfortunately not everyone understands this gig. Not everyone get’s this drive we have. The desire to create ridiculous success from NOTHING. Our commitment to serve our community relentlessly. And our aim to play big….VERY BIG! Your success, unfortunately, is often going to bring out the worst in some of the people around you because it forces them to face their own inaction, shortcomings, insecurities…whatever… If you’ve ever been eating to achieve a goal and that requires you to avoid all the good stuff like wine and cake you’ll know how crazy this makes the people around you! Because they can’t or are unwilling to sacrifice this stuff makes them uncomfortable that you can and ARE doing just that. It’s a lot like that only with success. If you’re in this place I want you to know 2 things…. 1. It’s not your job to make your success comfortable for the people around you. So knock yourself out. Give it everything you’ve got and thrive the way you know you can and should in spite of the negativity. Ignore it all and...
How to stop being an entrepreneur on the weekends

How to stop being an entrepreneur on the weekends

Weekends used to make me anxious. VERY anxious! During the week life had purpose, building my empire, training hard, taking care of my kids and running them around to after school activities, teaching classes. The weeks were a flurry of activity and it felt good. Busy was good. The weekends…not so good. I was waging this constant battle with myself that went something like this. You are NOT going to work on the weekends, that is just too pathetic. But I don’t what else to DO with my time!! I don’t care, find something, ANYTHING because you are NOT working on the weekend. But I can’t think of a single thing to do!! Ok, I’ll hit the gym…AGAIN….my default. It was ridiculous and pretty pathetic but I honestly had zero idea about what to do with myself when I wasn’t working, taking care of my kids or in the gym. It was a very one dimensional life. But I didn’t give up seeking a life outside of my business because I knew I had to. I was becoming boring. I was becoming bored. And I knew it wasn’t healthy to work every waking hour. I began a list of things I could be interested in doing. It was hard going, my creative juices were NOT flowing…at all!! I lived in the Dandenong’s which, to be honest I loathed, I’m a beach girl and I was land locked from every side. But I decided I’d start to explore the area around me. My then husband and I were living very separate lives (which is obviously why I was in this...
How love shaped my success…

How love shaped my success…

                              In my BOOK  “The Art Of Kicking Ass Elegantly – In Business, In Love, In Fitness & In Life” I wrote a whole chapter on the topic of love because finding love, when I’d given up on it, changed the trajectory of my business, as well as my life. Since I released the book I’ve had many women contact me to say that since they too found love,  how differently they now see and do business, it truly was an eye opener. When I say love changed the trajectory of my business I’m not overstating, within 12 months I had closed up shop on the 3 businesses I was running and launched a new brand (this one) that blew the success of my other businesses combined out of the water. Every one of my previous businesses had an overtly masculine energy: Rip It Up Challenge (hardcore online fitness training program for women) PUSH Women’s Only Taekwondo School (Martial Arts school) The Honourable Martial Arts Entrepreneur (Business Program for Martial Arts School Owners) My first book was titled “Bulletproof Confidence & A Kickass Body” Each of above relied on me being tough, strong, highly disciplined and at times superhuman with a “go hard or go home” approach. There was no room (or desire) for me to be soft, feminine or vulnerable. Martial Arts has been in my life in a big way for 25 years, as a student, an athlete, an instructor, head instructor and even Hall of Fame inductee it has truly shaped who I...
Let’s talk about love…

Let’s talk about love…

Most women yearn for the sort of love that ticks all of the boxes…deep connection, toe curling passion, intense attraction, a true meeting of minds….basically the type of love we see in the movies. I’d about given up on that little slice of heaven but I’ll be honest I gave it a red hot go trying to find “the one” over the years. I repeated mistake after mistake after mistake (usually the same ones) and kept finding myself back at square one. Well I did find “the one” and I cannot tell you how much richer my life is for having found this type of love, its fan-bloody-tastic! There’s a chapter on LOVE in my book because when I reflect on how this came about I realised there was a lot to be learned and shared from the experience. I was single amongst a bunch of other single women and I know for sure I approached things VERY differently to the way they did and most of them are still searching or in unhappy relationships. I was never “on the hunt” or had a strong focus on finding a relationship but I was definitely open to the possibility I was in no hurry and I knew myself well enough to know if someone wasn’t right pretty quickly. When I first met Dave I wasn’t swept off my feet by any stretch but I did have a feeling there was more to him than first met the eye. He was 5 years younger than me and as far as I was concerned that was a minus not a plus, maturity...
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